If you’re not getting laid, or simply blowing it at life.

Obviously I’m not the first to write about this, nor is it an unfamiliar concept (or perhaps for some it is), but constant masturbation (without regularly having sex) is like giving the horse its carrot before it arrives at its destination. This goes both for men and women.

That sexual energy, that innate drive for reproduction, is our motivation in life. When we “rub ourselves out” we lack the chemicals and energy produced by the contact of a partner which gives us that sense of accomplishment. We release that tension, but we didn’t work for it. That creates a habit of laziness.

Now let me state, personally, I have a huge sex drive, huge I tell you (I’m almost 22 years old). I could masturbate several times a day if I wanted to, sometimes I do (insert mental image for those who know me), but it doesn’t help me. And what doesn’t help me, doesn’t help you either.

What makes you win in life, what shows strength, is the ability to produce content (assuming its good, which is a whole other topic itself). How do you produce content? By delaying gratification: working hard to create something.

By masturbating, you become more focused on instant gratification. Because you gave in to you’re desires you weaken you’re will power to delay gratification. And it makes you focus directly on what you want in that moment: sex – thus being incompetent around the opposite sex.

What I would recommend is to masturbate at most once a week. If you can, go for longer.

Not only will this make you stronger around the opposite sex, but it will make you stronger as an individual, helping you out in all areas of you’re life.

If you agree, disagree or have any comments, let me know!

How not to practice writing

The guys at copyblogger say that to be a good writer you should always be writing, even when you have nothing to write about, write, write, write.

For several reasons I think this is bad advice.

This is because their concept is based off of a misnomer, a fallacy deriving from the 10,000 hour rule (popularized by Gladwell in his book Outliers). The rule says that it takes 10,000 hours of deliberate practice to master a skill. Though, as I guess wasn’t taken clearly, or perhaps simply forgotten by anxiousness and impulsivity: “practice doesn’t make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect” – Gladwell.

Writing for the sake of writing does nothing, or little at least. Its like talking to nobody, with no message to deliver - how do you know how to say what you want to say?

Writing used as a cathartic medium on the other hand, has purpose; to release the tension of an idea. That practices how you manipulate and convey you’re thoughts. It’s passion, emotion and purpose that resonates with readers.

You need to practice writing when you have the need to express yourself. That’s where it starts.

First, ideas get jotted down in a few lines. Soon they turn into a page. Eventually (hopefully) with practice you’ll be writing pages worth of well-written ideas.

You become a better writer by practicing expressing yourself.

Without purpose you have nothing.
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